If you have dove deep enough into your issues you have noticed a pattern. If you have traced that pattern back to it’s origin you have noticed that those behaviors were learned. Learned from home (immediate family), society (social media, movies, music, etc), or other relationships (friends, significant others, religious interactions, etc).
The term “generational curse” is not as spooky or magical as it sounds. It refers to the behavioral patterns that stemmed from home. If you paid attention to those behaviors, you notice that your mom, dad, grandma, grandpa, siblings, close aunt or uncle (parent’s siblings), close cousin (immediate nieces and nephews of your parents) have the same behavior to some degree. Why? It was taught and passed down. Your grandparents said “hey this worked for me, or this is what I know, so this is what my kids will learn” and your parents did the same. So here you are.
On your journey to bettering yourself what do you do with this information? You become a generational curse breaker. Being a generational curse breaker just means you take the initiative to say “the bad habits and thought processes that were passed down stop with me.” That is why the intrinsic work does not stop with identifying, you must also find solutions. Those solutions are how it stops because those new habits will be passed down.
Since they will be passed down, it is important that the solution is a healthy one. So, for example, the solution to splurging with money is not to become frugal with money. Those are opposite sides of the spectrum, yes…but not the solution for one another. The HEALTHY solution would be to become financially literate, budget, and gain discipline. See my point? You should not break curses by creating new ones, you want to break them by fixing them at the root.
“What if I do not know my parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.?” Simple. These things are taught not inherited. Who raised you? Do they behave the same?
And although society and outside relationships do not produce the same experience for everyone in your family. Your experience with them can create its own curse. Like how most movies make love look easy so if it is not easy in real life you give up and begin teaching your kids to give up when the relationship gets difficult.
A lot right? Everything matters and I got overwhelmed honestly but one step at a time, we got this.
My curses to work through are:
- Normalized emotional, mental, and physical abuse in relationships
- Negative self image
- Addictive behavior (gambling, drinking, smoking, etc.)
- Poor money management